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Ok, I quit is a strong phrase, maybe it should be I am making a change?

Regardless, it is time to make some changes in my life and the first is to cut out alcohol. And I’m making the change for a many and one reasons, and these are in no particular order:

Health reasons – weight, sleep better, liver needs a break, etc.
Cost – I drink good wine and expensive craft beer
Habit forming – I didn’t like that I have started walking in and grabbing a beer.
I want to do everything that I can to be here for as long as I can for my kids
And I didn’t like who it was making me.

Now, for the record, I was not drinking to excess, but I was having more than I should. And I didn’t like the fact that it was making me sluggish and I wasn’t just having one in a sitting. So, it is time.

So today, instead of drinking 2 – 3 beers tonight, I’ll have 1. And then, I’ll goto 1 every other day. And just work it down. Does that mean that I will quit drinking beer and wine forever? No, I love to cook with both and I really do love the taste of a good glass of wine or a cold beer. But for today, today I need this. Today, I need to share with others and need to have someone that will help me stay focused on this and today, I quit. Today, I start a new day and a new direction with a new focus. And as a bonus, I should be able to pocket about $200 + a month that was being spent on alcohol and shift that to paying down debt faster too!

So better heath, saving money, being a better dad all just seem to make this decision such a no brainer.

Today, I QUIT!

On the way to church on Sunday morning, we were talking with the boys and it was during a moment of quietness that Boy A shouted out that he had 5 Girlfriends. And if that wasn’t enough, not only did he have the 5 girlfriends, he was getting married to one of them.

Here is the difference between Dads and Moms. I gave my son a fist bump and asked a few key questions.
1) what about the other 4 girlfriends?
2) how was he going to pay for his wedding?
3) what did her parents think about them getting married so quickly?
4) did he proposal or did she just tell them that they were getting married?

To me, these were all important questions. To his mom, she was almost in tears and there I was fighting back laughing. The reality is, that apparently my son does have 5 girlfriends at school, as this was confirmed by his teacher this morning. And no, my other son has zero and seems perfectly content.

It is good to laugh. In fact, if we don’t laugh, we’ll end up with a really boring life. And we really shouldn’t take things like a 5 year old too seriously when it comes to getting married. But what I am proud of, is how they have really adapted to being in a new environment and how they have really made new friends.

These boys will love and lose girlfriends along the way. It is just a fact. But I love watching them and how their personalities are really shining and really coming out.

So to my son with 5 girlfriends, save up, because you’ll need a lot of money for dates in the future.