Life

My wife quietly informed me that she and some friends were going to be doing a girls knitting weekend. My first though Guys Weekend! Seriously, I can’t wait.

Not really sure what we are going to do yet? Park, weather permitting, maybe hit the aquarium downtown, not sure what else? Probably throwing burgers and hotdogs on the grill. But here is what I do know, we are going to have a lot of fun.

Being a Dad, there is no greater feeling in this world. Guys weekend, sure it is harder because it is just me for 2 days with the little guys, but it is doable. I truly have a blast with my boys and love every minute of it.

So many dad’s miss out on the little things, like Dr’s appointments, guys weekends, etc. Not me. I want to do it all. Over zealous, sure. But there is nothing better than the relationships that I’ve been able to start developing with my boys. The hugs that I get before bedtime. The quiet thank yous for cooking them dinner. Them constantly asking for my Bacon Pizza. Or my favorite, when they whisper “I love you daddy” in my ear. Ah, gets me every time.

Bring on Guys Weekend and bring on the fun.

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I don’t even know where to begin with the post birthday wrap up?

We took the boys to the Aquarium on Friday with their grandparents. I wasn’t sure how that was going to go, but I have to admit, it kept the boys attention for every bit of 3 hours.  They loved walking around and watching the sharks and dolphins swim by and to see their facial expressions was just beyond words. They were truly loving every minute of the day.

Saturday we had a leisure morning and then had a cookout with family and close friends. The weather was perfect and the company was even better. It was great having so many people there to celebrate the boys birthday and more importantly, there was only 2 presents, everyone made donations to the charity that we had selected this year. I think that once again we are going to be able to really help a lot of sick kids, which is awesome.

And then on Sunday, it was Easter. The boys didn’t really grasp the concept, other than they wanted to eat M&Ms for breakfast.  And Baby A loved doing the Easter egg hunts, but Baby B, which isn’t a shock, only wanted to pickup a few eggs and then he wanted to just run.

All in all, it was a great weekend. A long weekend, but a great weekend.

 

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On this Good Friday, I am often thinking less about the death of Jesus, but more about the resurrection. The act of selfness that Jesus bore the burdens and sins of Christians and died for us.
In my readings this week, these two verses really hit home with me:

“But let me tell you something wonderful, a mystery I’ll probably never fully understand. We’re not all going to die— but we are all going to be changed. You hear a blast to end all blasts from a trumpet, and in the time that you look up and blink your eyes—it’s over. On signal from that trumpet from heaven, the dead will be up and out of their graves, beyond the reach of death, never to die again. At the same moment and in the same way, we’ll all be changed. In the resurrection scheme of things, this has to happen: everything perishable taken off the shelves and replaced by the imperishable, this mortal replaced by the immortal. Then the saying will come true: Death swallowed by triumphant Life! Who got the last word, oh, Death? Oh, Death, who’s afraid of you now? It was sin that made death so frightening and law-code guilt that gave sin its leverage, its destructive power. But now in a single victorious stroke of Life, all three—sin, guilt, death—are gone, the gift of our Master, Jesus Christ. Thank God!”
1 Corinthians 15:56, 57 MSG

14 “Do not let your hearts be troubled. You believe in God[a]; believe also in me. 2 My Father’s house has many rooms; if that were not so, would I have told you that I am going there to prepare a place for you? 3 And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come back and take you to be with me that you also may be where I am.
John 14:1-3

I view death two ways: 1) your physical body on earth is no longer and 2) your everlasting life in Heaven begins.

So on this Good Friday, think about what Jesus gave up for you. Think about how he gave the ultimate sacrifice, his life, and think about what you’ve done and given up for others.

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Where did the time go? It seems like yesterday that we were finding out that you were going to be born.

Today, we celebrate the both of you. We celebrate the joy that you have brought not only to your mother and myself, but to so many others.
It is so often forgotten or overlooked that you are not just twins, but that you are two separate individuals.  But the funny thing, is that you are both a lot of alike.
You have both been close since day 1. For 9 months you shared a really small place and ever since, you’ve been side by side for 3 years. And my guess, is that bond between the two of you will only grow stronger.

As I sit and think about the morning that you were both born, I smile, because never in my wildest dreams would the last 3 years be this much fun. I hope that I’ve been able to teach you both a few things and I know that you guys have taught me a lot the last 3 years.

So Happy Birthday to my two Happy Little Monkeys.

I love you more than you’ll ever know.

Dad

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I was on Facebook over the weekend and saw the headline pop up in my news feed: 20 Tips for Creating a Family-Centered Life and it immediately caught my attention.

I think that in this day and time, even with the best of intentions, it is often hard to have a family-centered life. But, and this is important, but with a little effort, a lot of the things that were listed are definitely attainable.  I think that this list of 20 is awesome and could have gone even higher, but I wanted to reflect on some of these items individually.

1.    Mom and Dad have a consistent date night alone together at least once a month.  – This is HUGE! Parents, before you were parents, you were a couple. You have to have adult time. You have to remember why you came together in the first place to create this family. Without each other and working together, you become seperate units that will wake up one day and question why you are even together.

3.    Entire family gathers for dinner at least 3 times a week. – I grew up in a home that when I was young, we ate every night at the table and as my family grew apart, so did dinner time. My wife and I have it a point, to sit down with the boys every night at the dinner table while they eat. We try to eat at that same time as well, but sometimes that doesn’t happen. But if nothing else, we are there together, asking the boys questions, engaging with them and hopefully setting examples for when they have children. We usually put on some music, something low key, often times Jim Brickman.

9.    Dad prays with each of his children before they go to bed each night. – I FAIL at this one, big time. This is something that I have really struggled with and have tried to do better about. But this is a big one and one that I really want to do better on.

10.  Weekly church attendance. – Again, as a family we have FAILED this one. We were really diligent about this for the first 2 years of the boys lives, but the last 8 months, we just have falling into a pattern of not going. And a bad pattern at that. We’ve made excuses, but really at the end of the day, this is on my wife and myself. We’ve talked about doing better, but we have to talk less and get back into the habit of going.

12.  Dad’s job does not keep him working a lot of late nights or weekends. – When I am home, I am home. No work on the weekend or night, unless it is an emergency and thus far, there have not been any emergencies that could not wait until the next day or at least until after the boys goto bed.

13.  Entire family has at least one week of vacation time together per year.  – This is really important. This years vacation might look different, but we are still planning on getting away for a few days. It is important to have family time and even more importantly than that, to have family down time away from home.

17.  Dad personally knows all of his children’s teachers and is involved in the PTA. – I’ll go a step further than just school. I think that it is crucial for Dad’s to also goto their children’s doctor appointments. I’ve been to every Dr. appointment, except for 2 and I’ve been to every Parent Teacher conference for the boys. It is important as Dad’s to be involved in our children’s lives, because how can we expect to raise them, if we are missing information and not informed.

A family-centered life is an important foundation in my children’s lives. I hope that they will one day recognize how involved I am and will do the same when they have children.

 

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My mornings can sometimes be crazy. Getting the kids up and ready, making sure that I get myself ready and I can’t leave without my morning coffee. And by morning, I mean my 2nd cup of coffee for the drive.

There is something about hearing the boys first words of the day though, that just make me smile. Today was, Juice, I would like juice daddy. And just like that, we were off to start our day.

Today was not much different, other than I was on edge the whole morning.  Things that were going on with the house, the floors were dirty, thinking about my day and what it was going to look like and all the boys wanted was juice. Not a difficult request. But it was the most important thing that I needed to do at that very moment.

What I’m realizing more and more everyday, is that when I am with the boys, I am with the boys. I am focused on them and their needs. I am playing with them in the floor, playing catch, teaching them how to zip up their pjs at night, learning a little Spanish and the list grows. But all of this starts with the mornings.

 

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I noticed over the last few days, the boys have been counting a lot more. In fact, Baby B actually said ocho for the number 8 in Spanish. So I thought that I would start testing them and getting them to count even more.

It is amazing how creating a quick game on the fly will spark their thinking.  So while sitting at dinner, I started asking the boys to count out the number of crackers that they wanted and then they had to count them as they ate them. They jumped all over that one. So after dinner, we counted the number of steps from the floor to the top of the steps. They both got stumped on #12, but I don’t think that it is too bad to count from 1 – 12 before the age of 3.

So, now that we’ve started counting more and they have been doing it a lot on their own as well, just counting little things that they see on the floor and around them. It is just amazing to see them grow and pickup new things each day. Making a little game out of it and getting really excited when they get the numbers right has proven to be really important.

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Murphy’s Law, if it can happen or go wrong, it will.  And if it does go wrong, it usually goes wrong in a bad way.

Now, there are two ways to look at this, glass half empty or half full.

Last night I got an email from my CPA saying that we owed a considerable amount this year. Now, I write this and I’m waiting on confirmation back from him on a few things, so the number should go down some. BUT, my first thought was holy crap, how are we going to pull this off? Half empty. First thought was not that we were fortunate enough to get raises give more money last year, etc. It was how are we are going to pay this off? I went to bed worried. I went to bed thinking how we could shave off of our budget to cover this?

I woke up this morning, stressed out. I woke up concerned. But I woke up.

I woke up to hearing Baby A calling my name. Not screaming, but saying “It’s morning Daddy!”

We’ve been blessed beyond belief. We have been able to save, build a little of an emergency fund, which we will have to use some of it more than likely to pay off the tax bill. But we’ve been blessed. And as I was making coffee for me and a cup of Apple Juice for Baby A, as Baby B and my wife slept, I realized that sure, Murphy’s Law likes to hit at really bad times. Sure, I could use that extra money that I’ll be paying to the government each month to pay down credit cards. But maybe this is a chance for us to get creative? Maybe this is a time that I pickup a few extra websites and make a little side money? Maybe now, we are in a better place financially and can look at Murphy’s Law as a slight speed bump in the road of life, as opposed to the doom and gloom that we once did.

I’m choosing to look today at Murphy’s Law as a glass full of stuff, that from time to time, we just have to deal with.

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If you don’t know who Adreian Payne is, then you are missing an AMAZING story. Here is a college kid, with a lot of potential and an even bigger heart.

Just take a moment and you’ll realize that in life, Adreian Payne isn’t just a talented basketball player, he is a good person that that is changing the life of this little girl.

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Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. (1 Corinthians 13:4) How many times have you heard that bible verse, especially at weddings?

Well, it is something that my wife and I talked a lot about this weekend on our quick mountain getaway. We talked about how it isn’t easy being parents and working full time. We talked about how tired we are. We talked about how we need to do more for each other and put the others needs as a higher priority. But, one really important thing, was about being patient. It is so easy to be short with the ones you love the most, because they will always love you. But being patient and being kind to them, even when you don’t want to be, is really hard.

This morning, around 3:00 am the boys woke up and were ready to play. I was cranky, I was tired and I just wanted to sleep. I was not as patient as I needed to be, but in the middle of trying to get the boys calmed down and downstairs, I reminded my wife, that love is patient, even in times like these.

Read the full verse 1 Corinthians 13:4-7:

4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Bible Gateway

My wife sent me a text earlier to thank me and to tell me how much she appreciated getting up with the boys this morning, and send ended the text very appropriated that Love is patient, Love is kind. I can’t wait to get home today and play with the boys and spend time with my wife.

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